New-agey, granola and hippy-dippy crap were some of the things I was reading. The internet ran wild with silly tweets and even crashing the GOOP site.
When I first heard it, I thought, "hm, well good for them" in a hooray, that is awesome sort of way. I am truly baffled as to why others are having such a hard time wrapping their heads around a couple that is able to confront their marital( or other) differences and get to an understanding of how each person played a part. A couple able to look inside themselves and not just place the blame on the other party.
We change , we grow. We do it alone, or with another. Either way, we will do it.
What is so wrong with recognizing that a relationship has run its course?
When and where did we learn divorce has to be ugly?
Why is it the norm for divorce to be full of anger and blame ?
Is it because we are unable to search within ourselves, to hold ourselves accountable for our end to the end?
so what is it that has others so perturbed about how it is being said?
If we could look within and have a better understanding of self, the idea wouldn't be so far fetched. Its the same idea as saying you are " amicably separating" or have decide you are "mutually done".
no matter if you like they way it is phrased, lets talk about what it really means.
If people are able to consciously work on things to keep a relationship going, are they not allowed to consciously decide together to stop doing that?
We can only hope to be so lucky to be this way in all our relationships.
Two people choosing to work together at being apart. Two people choosing to co-parent happily and lovingly in the time they have to be together. Two people fully aware of what has happened and what needs to be done for harmony. Two people who possibly, maybe, feel that we are adults, growing and changing and it is accepted the way life should be.... accepted.
Acceptance in all relationships. Acceptance for you who you are, accepting the other person
and accepting when the two no longer connect.